Marriages and Holidays
The change of seasons usually brings about a shift in mood for many couples in marriages with different viewpoints on the Holiday season. During the Spring and Summer, these couples are able to relax and enjoy each other and the relationship on their best terms, but as soon as the cooler weather hits, it brings about an increase in the stress levels of these marriages. Just thinking about the tense arguments brewing about the Holidays can ruin even the months preceding it.
Dana began to worry and gear up for a miserable season before Halloween even hit.
Jay loves Christmas, just as I do. The problem is that he loves it in an entirely different way and I just don’t know if I can take it one more year. In my parent’s house, Christmas was a precious time to celebrate each other, our traditions, and above all else the birth of Jesus. In fact, making a birthday cake for Jesus was an important part of our Holiday traditions. Jay thought it was “quaint” the first year I did that with our kids, but for him, the Holiday is all about drinking and joking with his siblings. Last year my children didn’t want to make a cake with me, they wanted to help Jay plan practical jokes for their Uncles. What kind of tradition is that?
Jay and Dana have two incredibly different views on what the Holiday season means to them and are each trying to put those views on their own children. Their marriage counselor worked not to change any particular family tradition, but to help each person see where each tradition meant something special in their lives. There was no reason that Birthday Cake for Jesus and some tactical planning of practical jokes couldn’t both fit into the season.
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