Maturity and Age in Marriage
Many people discuss the issue of maturity when they talk about younger couples and if they are ready for marriage. Usually, when this old adage is being brought up it means that someone doesn’t think one or more of the couple is mature enough to handle the stress and responsibility in marriage.
Age for Marriage in History
When it comes to maturity, the Greeks had a very one-sided view in their history. In ancient history, it was common for Greek men to marry only when they had finished with military service, which happened generally at the age of 30. Greek men often chose young teenage women for wives to ensure that their new bride would be a virgin. This means that the common age of the husband was 30 and the wife about 14! When historians discuss the ways in which Greek women were left with much responsibility and little control in their lives it isn’t any wonder. They were children themselves, controlled by an adult husband with all of the power that their society bestowed.
Age and Maturity
When marriage is about maturity, it is also about the maturity of both individuals. One very mature spouse cannot make up for one very immature spouse. The relationship eventually becomes one-sided and miscommunications and resentment are common problems.
A young age does not always mean less responsible behavior, however. Many young couples are hardworking and responsible with the emotional maturity needed to make their commitment long term.
If you or someone you love is being told that they are too young or too immature to marry, advise them instead to seek out pre-marital counseling to better be able to determine that themselves.
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