One Spouse Makes a Change
Many people in difficult and troubled relationships want help and actively seek the guidance and assistance of a marriage counselor. What stops before they make the first appointment is a reluctant partner. Having one partner refuse to seek counseling is much more common than you may be thinking, and overcoming that difficulty is easier and quite common, too.
Dr. Marty talks about his advice to those with unwilling partners:
If your relationship is in trouble, don’t wait for your partner to be ready.
While you’re waiting for them to come for counseling things will get worse and rebuilding your relationship gets harder.
As you learn to deal more effectively when your partner won’t join in counseling there are two things that often happen;
First, many partners notice the change and they respond favorably. They also become more willing to communicate.
Secondly, the other person becomes less defensive, because they see that counseling is actually making a positive difference and very often they are willing to come in for counseling.
There are some very real changes that can take place in your relationship and your life, even if one partner is not yet attending therapy with you.
Here is what I can teach you even if your partner doesn’t come in for counseling:
1. How to better understand your partner even if they don’t speak to you.
2. How to effectively influence your partner when you do talk with them.
3. Learn how to deal with your partner when they won’t listen to you.
4. Get support for a difficult situation.
5. How to help your children in a household that has conflict.
6. Learn how to handle difficult situations like: your partner’s anger, addiction, or In-law problems.
Just because your partner is currently reluctant about seeking treatment, don’t let that put your own decision off. Seek out help and you will be surprised at the changes you can make.
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