Pre-Marital Counseling for Communication
It is becoming increasingly common for couples who are preparing to get married to seek counseling prior to their marriage as part of their church’s request. In fact, many couples are now pursing such counseling on their own, irrespective of their religious affiliations.
Acknowledging that you are entering into a lifelong commitment and approaching it seriously is a smart move and shows maturity. A professional couples counselor can evaluate your communication skills and spot some “trouble areas” before they become problematic in the relationship.
Dean and Mary decided to enter into a 6 session pre-marriage counseling program in the year before their wedding.
Mary and I were very confident about our communication as a couple. We are great believers in talking out our differences and hardly ever argued. As a matter of fact, we had never had what most people would consider a real fight. We’re usually able to sit down and discuss stuff rationally and agree on a solution. That way, even if neither of us won, we still won together.
Dean’s feelings and assumptions here are valid, but his growing realization of his own continued deference to Mary’s wishes gradually came out during pre-marital counseling.
When we met with David [the pre-marital counselor], we realized that I often gave into Mary’s requests as a way to avoid an argument. I didn’t realize it, but I was almost always giving in, and that’s why we seldom argued. While it wasn’t a huge issue yet, we could see how it would be eventually.
Dean and Mary worked diligently on their communication and problem resolution during their pre-martial counseling session and entered into their marriage feeling more confident and secure about their future as a couple.
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