Secrets Come Out in Marriage Counseling
Marriage counseling is one of those places where a person tends to reveal their secrets.
Secrets within the boundaries of a relationship are nothing new and often nothing bad, just small things that we keep to ourselves that we don’t want other people knowing. Often these types of secrets are just personal vulnerabilities that we keep. Other times, however, these secrets are not small, not inconsequential and not undamaging. Marriage counseling is often used as a safe place where secrets are revealed.
The telling of your secrets is a part of letting go of the guilt and shame that you had in keeping them in the first place. It allows your partner to see the real you, good and bad, and choose to still be with you.
For one couple, the secret kept was becoming life-threatening.
Greg had never admitted to his wife, Luanne, his addiction to prescription painkillers. After a serious car accident several years prior, he had been prescribed painkillers. After several years of physical therapy he had healed almost fully, but added an addiction to painkillers to his daily lifestyle.
Once in therapy, Greg finally admitted his addiction in the face of the Luanne’s growing concern over his distancing and changing behavior. You see, Greg’s addiction had become a real problem in the marriage, only Luanne had no idea that it was the cause of many of their problems.
It took several sessions before Greg admitted he had an addiction and, while surprised, Luanne was able to see, with the counselor‘s help, the intricacies of addiction. The counselor instructed Greg to seek addiction counseling in addition to the marriage counseling. Luanne realized that her husband was suffering from a sickness, one she was prepared to learn more about and support him through.
Marriage counseling offers a safe platform for couples to reveal secrets and begin again.
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