Self Worth in Marriage
Paul and Aubrey had spent the past few years in an unhappy marriage. While they hadn’t thought that divorce was ever an option, Aubrey admitted that lately, she thought that maybe Paul was thinking in that direction. Together, they had four grown children who Aubrey had raised almost alone during the rise of Paul’s career. Together they were financial sound, however apart there was not way in which Aubrey could maintain a semblance of her lifestyle, not having been out in the working world in over 25 years.
During marriage counseling, when Aubrey said that Paul wanted a divorce, he himself was shocked.
I never said I wanted a divorce. I’ve been unhappy, you’ve been unhappy, but I thought that’s why we came to counseling, to work things out?
Through some very frank discussions with the marriage counselor, the emotional impact and fear that had been plaguing Aubrey began to give a clearer picture of why she felt the way she did.
Paul was unhappy, but lets face it, he’s also successful and handsome and he can be with anyone. If he walked away from me right now, I don’t know that he would even notice it. The kids aren’t at home anymore, it isn’t like he needs me to cook or clean for him, we have people who do that. He’s unhappy and he doesn’t need me.
The marriage counselor worked with Aubrey and Paul to help them find an emotional balance that they could each be happy with. In addition, it was advised that Aubrey start training for a new career in a field that made her feel worthy and involved on her own without depending on Paul or the children for her self worth.
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