Your Marriage And Your Fantasy
Many marriages relish the extra spice added by the occasional fantasy or fantasy role play opportunity, and it is common for a person to fantasize about another person even when having sexual contact with their very real partner. Marriage counselors talk to couples about such things all the time, but there are instances when intervention is appropriate.
Fantasy and Marriage
Fantasizing is common; most everyone does it in one way or another. Even if you thing you don’t fantasize, simply holding a brush up and lip syncing in a mirror often includes fantasizing about being a singer. Studies show that fantasizing can be very healthy and helps you deal with the real and unreal world around you.
Married couples fantasize. It is very common and normal. People who are married have fantasies just as much as single people do but it should be understood that fantasizing and acting out a fantasy are very different things. Acting out your actual fantasies can have negative consequences on your life, depending on those fantasies. For instance, if you fantasize about having an affair it would be detrimental to your marriage to follow through with that fantasy. Imagining your spouse is the object of that affair would most likely not be a bad thing, however.
The bottom line when thinking about whether or not your fantasy is appropriate is that they’re okay as you can control your actions, your fantasies do not turn into an obsession, and you can appropriately decipher your fantasy from your reality.
A marriage counselor will work with you to understand how fantasizing fits into your marriage.
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