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Reasons for Marrying Discovered in Premarital Counseling

There are so many reasons couples give for marrying that it almost seems inevitable that everyone will be married and those who aren’t are just too darn picky. By the time many couples are entering into marriage counseling, they usually have the ability to look back and realistically recognize the reasons for which they got married in the first place. Oftentimes, the reasons they expressed at the time of marriage are different from the reasons they look back on years later.

Most marriages happen because both individuals decide that they love one another and choose a life together. Because love is an emotion, it can be manipulated, stressed, stretched and altered to fit the meaning at the time, and even be used to mask the other emotions that one is feeling.

Even for the very large majority of couples that marry for love, years later when some relationships falter under the strain of realistic life, many look back on their original reasons with a kind of wistful innocence.

I married Luke because he loved me and he was handsome and funny. I told him and myself that I loved him back. Looking back on it now, 15 years later, I realize that I married him because I thought it was better to be with someone who loved me then be with no one at all. I liked him, but I didn’t love him then. It took years for me to realize, step by step, that I was falling in love with the man I married. I understand now I lucky I am, but it could’ve turned out a lot differently.

Entering into premarital counseling can help you and your partner better understand your reasons for marrying.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Monday, August 3rd, 2009 at 7:03 am. It is filed under Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.