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Relationship Predictions

Relationships mean more than what is between you and your partner. Relationships include a broad range of social interactions and individuals ranging from family to friends to acquaintances. You can even form a casual relationship with your dry cleaner clerk if you are seeing them once a week when you drop off your clothes. Every relationship you have can affect your marriage, no matter how casual that relationship may be.

People tend to base their assumptions and predictions on what has happened to them in the past in similar situations. This is normal and usually helpful in predicting what comes next. If it rains every time it is dark and cloudy then the next time its dark and cloudy the person’s desire to grab an umbrella is understood. Put into the terms of a relationship, imagine someone who has been hurt every time they reached a certain point in a partnership. They will understandably predict that same hurt for someone else in that stage. Their past experience leads them fully to that prediction, no matter how inaccurate it may be for someone else.

If your friends tend to be in a negative period in their life, or going through a divorce, they may not be very supportive of your relationship. In this case, the negative view of your marriage might be less about you and your spouse and more about how your friend perceives the world.

Try to understand that advice is a wonderful thing and normal in all relationships, but understand too that each person’s predictions comes from their experience, not yours.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Friday, August 28th, 2009 at 9:12 am. It is filed under Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

One Response to “Relationship Predictions”

Money and Relationships on August 29th, 2009 at 11:33 am

At times couples are squabbing over money matters and their relationships affects
a lot because of this. i too was one of the victim to this and i was adviced by one of my friend to get rid of this and i did …

i thought the same way as you did a few months back when i and my partner had some issues on money matters and our relationship seemed like it is gonna sink
and i went into depression and only on one day my friend made me realize how i could overcome my issue with this.
And it worked for me and now, we are a happily living couple.