Terms of Endearment Not So Dear
Terms of endearment are words or phrases used to address or describe a person or animal for which the speaker feels love or affection. Terms of endearment are used for a variety of reasons, such as parents addressing their children and lovers addressing each other. From movies to literature to everyday life, when someone calls you an endearment it usually makes you feel special. And it should, because it is supposed to be used only in the context of special relationships.
Terms of Endearment
Honey, Hon
Sweatheart, Sweetie
Darling
Dear
Baby
Babe
Most of us remember the first time our spouse used a term of endearment when speaking to us, and many have created their own special nickname, or endearment, for their spouse and children. Simple nicknames or endearments such as:
Pumpkin
Sugar,
Pookie
Endearments are as widespread and as unique as each person wants them to be. That can, however, cause an issue if the user takes the special out of the endearment definition and begins to refer to everyone that way.
Terry said:
Joe used to call me “Darlin’” all the time. It had a kind of cowboy swagger and he said it so softly that I just about melted every time. Until I heard him call our waitress Darlin. And his secretary. And the woman at the bank. And just about every other woman, regardless of age. That’s when I understood that it didn’t mean anything special to him, it was just a phrase that he used on all women. Which then made me feel that he did that because he simply couldn’t be bothered to remember a woman’s name.
If you or your spouse uses terms of endearment, remember to use them to refer to special persons in their lives, not as an every day form of address.
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