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What You Can Do To Improve Your Relationship

A relationship counselor cannot help you if you are not willing to make your relationship work. In fact, there are many things that you can do on your own to improve your relationship. Couples’ therapist Keith Miller has come up with a list of ten things you can do to improve your relationship.

Stop all forms of blaming, shaming, or criticizing your partner.
Don’t wait for your partner to guess what you need.
Do 3-5 caring behaviors for your partner every day with no strings attached.
Close all exits.
Know thyself.
Remember that your partner is not an extension of you.
Let the sun go down on your anger.
Become a good listener.
Receive attempts at repair. Become the partner that you want to have.

Now, all these things point to a necessity of change in your own behavior if you want a change in the relationship. And you cannot afford to wait for an opportune time to start making the changes. You have got to start doing them right now.

How can one-sided change make your relationship different? Well, human behavior is a great thing; it is dependent on the behavior of the ones around you. When one partner starts making a visible effort, the other will definitely be affected, in a positive way. If the blame game reduces from one side, the other one too will lose the interest to do so.

You can do a lot on your own in order to make your relationship work. And if you don’t see results, you can always seek counseling.

This article was written by Staff Writer, and posted on Monday, June 28th, 2010 at 4:32 am. It is filed under Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can skip to the end and leave a response. Pinging is currently not allowed.

One Response to “What You Can Do To Improve Your Relationship”

san diego marriage counselling on June 29th, 2010 at 12:25 am

Seeking professional help also increase confidence and self-esteem of individuals, as well as improve communication between a couple. The objective guidance provided by a trained counsellor will help identify the issues that are actually affecting the relationship rather than focusing on the superficial ones, teach couples how to pull together rather than push each other away, and offer help and resources for a stronger and more fulfilling marriage.