Individual Therapy for Confidence and Health
Vincent had a series of relationships in which he had been the one who was dumped. Though always surrounded by female friends, he never seemed to be able to find the right one for himself. When he met Deina, he was confident enough to ask her out on a date, but still constantly thought about how any relationship was doomed because the girls always broke his heart.
I kept telling my friends, “I hope she doesn’t break my heart.” I could just see it happening, you know? I had been dumped on so many times that I just didn’t want to even think about it happening again. When I told this to my friend Jack, he started laughing at me. Jack told me that he watched girls throw themselves at me all the time, many of them getting close to me as friends and then trying to take it a step further. The girls that I did date, he said I sabotaged half the relationships that I didn’t like because I didn’t want to be the bad guy and break up with her. You could’ve pushed me over with a feather. I just hadn’t seen any of that, but when he told me, I realized it was the truth. I had so many great relationships that weren’t right for me at the time that I would push the girls away until they broke up with me. Then after a while, I just thought about how many girls had broken up with me and felt sorry for myself without taking responsibility for what I had contributed to the breakups.
Vincent eventually worked out his relationship issues in individual therapy. His therapist was able to discuss his self-confidence issues as well as help him accept a healthy, happy relationship as something that was worth waiting for, because he was worth it.
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