The Real Romance, Revisited
The incredible audience reached through multiple media outlets has led to generations of people who view lifelong relationships through the looking glass of a romance novel. The simple truth is that few movies, television programs or novels concentrate real time on the daily trials and difficulties of a relationship. The heady romance of the beginning never seems to fade in a romance novel and instead only grows deeper, more passionate and more intriguing over the years. While love in a long term relationship often does grown deeper over the years, the basis of the relationship changes with life and the focus shifts at some points, as is the case in the child-rearing years. By increasing the public display of relationships as they are seen through a filmmaker’s or writer’s eyes, the ideal for a relationship becomes skewed for many.
Heather had this to say:
As a young teenager, I was always reading my mother’s romance novels. I read so many, so often, that I felt that I had a clear sense of what the best relationship should look like and feel like. Every time I met a boy, I would be seeing him through romance novel. Mysterious? Check. Intelligent? Check. Muscled? No. Ah, well, move onto the next guy. No one could measure up to what my ideal man was, and even when I did find a perfect guy, the relationship wasn’t everything that a romance novel had showed me. It led to some very difficult dating years, I can assure you.
Heather had entered into couples therapy with Jorge, her boyfriend of two years. Jorge loved Heather, but felt that she had unrealistic views of relationships. Through couples therapy, Heather and Jorge found that theirs was a real, if sometimes difficult love, forever and always.
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